Day 352: I Love You Anyway (December 18)

For many years now, Chris and I will say to each other, “I love you anyway”.  To some of you this might seem unkind, but to me it is a sign of devotion.  Let me tell you how it was born.

For years, I was insecure about Chris’ love.  I was coming from a place of abandonment and woundedness and had trouble believing that anyone could be trusted to not leave me behind.  This led to an unfair burden placed on Chris.  But over time, and with healing from God, I realized what I was doing.

After this revelation, when Chris and I would have disagreements or if I thought he was being moody, instead of feeling insecure and wondering, “Is he going to leave me?”  I would simply say to him, “I love you anyway.”

It’s my way of saying, “We may not be getting along right now, but I still love you in the middle of it.”

Now he says it all the time too.  Anytime we disagree or argue that’s how we re-confirm our unconditional bond to one another.  “I love you anyway”.

Now, instead of looking for ways to push each other away because of the fear of rejection, we are confessing with our own mouths that we are committed, even when times are hard.

I feel very strongly that someone reading this really needed to hear this seemingly silly story.  God is unconditionally loving.  And even though we are human, we can still make strides toward learning more about how to give that same kind of love.

Can’t you just see the Father standing before you now saying, “No matter what you’ve done, I love you anyway.  No matter how you’ve sinned, I love you anyway.  Even when you reject Me, I love you anyway.  Unconditionally.”

Now that’s something.  Dwell in that place of receiving.  God will not ever reject you.  Ever.

I pray that out of His glorious riches He may strengthen you with power through His Spirit in your inner being so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith.  And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ.  Ephesians 3:16-18

We love because He first loved us.  1 John 4:19