There is something wonderful about spending time with those who truly love you, and with those you truly love. It’s such a warm comfort to be around people that make you feel valued and understood.
When you’re around people you love, it doesn’t seem to matter what you are doing. Whether it’s dinner at a fine restaurant or a burger from a dive, it’s fulfilling. It’s the person who brings the value to the equation, not the location.
My whole life, I’ve valued one on one relationship. I don’t love crowds. In crowds there are too many things happening for my discerning personality. It’s overwhelming. I’d pick a solid one on one time with a true loved one over a group any day of the week.
When we’re young people focus more on how many and not the quality of one.
I will forever choose the quality of one. I love the following verse…
A bowl of vegetables with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate. Proverbs 15:17
This is so true. I’ve been on group events at beautiful places and thought, “I wish I was somewhere else.” The value of a day is certainly largely based on who you are spending it with.
I could be rummaging through trash with my husband and still have loads of laughs and leave feeling joy. On the other hand, I could be in paradise with someone I don’t like and wrestle with feeling miserable. You know it’s true.
Small and genuine is how you’ll find my circle.
I remember when social media began, and all the focus was on who had the most “friends”. Now I find myself constantly unfriending people who try to rob my peace with things they say and do. It’s just not worth it.
Quality over quantity. That’s always been the way. That will never change.
I encourage you to evaluate your inner circle. Is it full over erroneous relationships designed to make you feel more popular or is it soaked in quality? It’s important to be honest with ourselves about our choices.
More than once I’ve found myself entertaining more people than normal but having more of a disconnected feeling. Those people didn’t value me and the effort I was putting into our relationship and once I realized that and stepped back, it was clear. Then peace returned.
It matters how and with whom we spend our quality time with.
365 Days in the Presence 