Recently, while having a conversation with a close friend, I felt Holy Spirit fall all over me and I had some thoughts about marriage, and some of the differences between men and women.
We often hear people referencing the Bible when speaking about women being the weaker sex, as if it’s a negative thing. Then I thought about how a woman’s tears seem to draw men to come and protect them. Often men have a hard time with the emotion of women, but I propose that it is because they long to come to our aid and protect us and fix whatever “ails us”……then I thought of how the Bible tells men/husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church…..Christ had to come to the earth and die on the cross because of man’s weakness…..So maybe the very reflection of this weakness is found in the husband/wife scenario.
Often I have felt the weight of being accused in my “weakness”….Making me feel less than because I feel deeply and cry and am all things womanly. But really, tears are such a strength. Releasing the tears I have stored up gives me room to process and love and to feel…That IS strength….Strength in weakness.
We ALL had such weakness that Jesus had to come save us from ourselves, but as the Bible says, “In my weakness He is strong!” So, is it possible that the thing that many use to accuse and invalidate women, is the very thing that God uses in us to make us so strong? If women are the weaker sex, isn’t God even stronger in us?
In my weakness, I lean into the Father for His strength and protection and He becomes so strong in and around and through me! What a beautiful exchange!!
But let’s take this a step further, what if the very weakness women have is what was meant to draw out the very strength and spirit of manhood? What if it is the male/female interaction that draws out the strength in us all? What if it wasn’t spoken in scripture as a negative or an accusation, but rather an insight into what makes the male/female dynamic so beautiful…and to help us further understand our relationship with Jesus.
I am NOT a feminist. I am a daughter of the King and ALL of my value comes from Him alone. I believe that true power and empowerment comes not from women dominating men, or men dominating women, but from us working together and complimenting each other. My husband’s strengths cover my weaknesses and my strengths cover his, quite often.
I often wonder how long it will take for us to all decide to let each other be strong where we are strong, and then let those around us with different strengths come in and compliment us as we compliment them.
A true leader, whether male or female, knows that they don’t have to force anything. A true leader is borne first in a person’s heart. If a person is truly confident then they can let others shine and lead and excel. It’s in our insecurities that we are threatened by another person’s leadership or strength.
As I watch different people groups in America fighting and protesting and basically throwing adult temper tantrums, I am burdened with all of these thoughts. As I have been a part of church family dynamics for so long now, I am burdened with these thoughts….If the church is to truly take its right place, then we need both men and women to be leaders and voices. What are we so afraid of?
Take a minute and ask God to show you your strengths. Let Him shine His light throughout you. You may discover a part of yourself that has been long hidden. How can you use this strength? How can it compliment the strengths of those around you? I believe each of our strengths are like building blocks for the “body”, the church body. Like legos, we were made to snap together and work in unison to build some beautiful things. If you are willing, give God permission to use you. It may seem like a scary thing to say, but I assure you the fulfillment of being used by your Creator for your specific purpose is the greatest joy!
In the Lord however, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from God. I Corinthians 11:11-12
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of that gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. I Peter 3:7
But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in my weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:9-11