I have noticed how hard it is to let love in sometimes. Do you ever have a kind word spoken to you only to shrug it off? Do you struggle to hear positive affirmation? Do you think it’s humble to do so?
Over the years, I have wondered why I seemed to struggle with this very thing, but I’ve discovered it stems from fear. The fear can probably take many forms, but for me it was fear of disappointment. I never quite believed people when they spoke nice words to me. Instead, I would process it through suspicion. I would wonder if they had an angle or wanted something from me. I was never fully convinced that they were in fact, telling the truth.
This came from some deep-seated disappointment in my heart. But God didn’t create me to be unable to receive His affection or word of encouragement. As His daughter, I am designed to receive His love in all forms.
So, even though I still didn’t feel different, I began to simply thank others when they praised or encouraged me. I began to train my mind and heart to receive encouragement. I began to see that God would speak His encouragement to me, through others words. I now look beyond the person in front of me and to the One Who I know loves me without fail.
People who love to encourage, feel loved when others receive that love. This is also true, so why would I sabotage their love language because I have a complex. A simple thank you accompanied with a smile, can make the other persons day.
So I encourage, and challenge you today….if someone pays you a compliment, simply say, “Thank you” and smile. Don’t talk your way out of the compliment or shrug it off. Just receive it for what it’s worth.
God loves you. He goes to great lengths to demonstrate that love. Just receive it.
And so, we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 1 John 4:16
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 1 John 4:18
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8